The 4Bs: Relationship Standards

The 4Bs

The 4Bs are the 4 major criteria participants of Moral Action Initiative practice. The 4Bs are cautionary criteria that you should look out for in yourself and when searching for a partner for a romantic relationship.

THE LIST

1. Beliefs

2. Boundaries

3. Bad Mindset

4. Behavior

   
   

EXPLANATION

Beliefs

Extreme differences in moral beliefs are a serious challenge in relationships. Obvious incompatibility in moral beliefs, especially commitment, fidelity, and marriage, can be major obstacles to a healthy long-term relationship. Before entering a relationship with someone, think about how compatible your beliefs are. If you choose to date someone whose beliefs differ significantly from yours, be prepared for conflict on these topics.

Boundaries

Proper personal and relational boundaries between partners are essential. Flirtation with others is a serious infringement of a relationship and is often a source of anger, jealousy and distrust. This can escalate quickly, especially if one or both partners try to “get revenge” on the other, which can lead to a slippery slope. Respecting your significant other's boundaries is imperative for maintaining a healthy relationship.

Bad Mindset

Unresolved romantic or family issues can arouse problems in relationships. Situations that can significantly affect trust, attachment, or emotional regulation may require healing before pursuing serious relationships. It is never a good idea to enter a relationship with fresh wounds from a previous relationship, and it is important to be aware of how your familial relationships can affect your romantic ones.

Behavior

Promiscuity can weaken your romantic relationships, your reputation, and even your friendship with others. It will also negatively affect future dating prospects. Maintaining fidelity to your partner is non-negotiable in dating and there is no situation where it is okay. Other “red flags” like manipulation, jealousy, or anger issues need to be kept in mind, managed, and ideally resolved before entering a romantic relationship. Do not be immoral.

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